Why Beating Yourself Up Isn’t Helping You Reach Your Goals

Embrace Your Real

Julie Ledbetter

Health & Fitness, Fitness, Body, Mindset, Movement, Health, Acceptance, Macros, Love, Positivity, Nutrition, Loss, Weight

5 • 965 Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Hey friend! We need to talk about something that might be sabotaging your progress—and I’m not talking about your workouts or your nutrition. I’m talking about how you talk to yourself.

We all have that inner voice, right? And for so many of us, that voice is harsh. It’s critical. It says things like: “You should be further along.” “Why can’t you be more disciplined?” “You’re so lazy. You messed up again.” And the thing is—we think that voice is helping. We think it’s keeping us in check, keeping us accountable, making sure we don’t slip.

But the truth? That voice might be the very thing holding you back from your goals.

So in today’s episode, we’re diving into what the research says about self-criticism versus self-compassion. I’m going to walk you through how to practice self-reflection without spiraling into shame, and I’ll give you actual scripts you can use to reframe negative self-talk the moment it shows up.

What I Discuss:

1. Why beating yourself up doesn’t make you more disciplined, but more discouraged.

2. What really is Self-compassion.

3. How to practice accountability without judgment by asking curious, kind questions.

4. How to change your self-talk in the moment using simple, powerful reframes.

If you loved this episode, you will also love: Episode 480: The Power of Small Efforts in Your Fitness Journey

https://www.juliealedbetter.com/embrace-your-real/the-power-of-small-efforts-in-your-fitness-journey

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0:00.0	Hey there, beautiful human. You're listening to Embrace Your Real with me, Julie Ledbetter,
0:05.4	a podcast where I empower you to just be you. With each episode, I dish you a dose of real talk
0:11.4	and actionable advice for building your confidence, honoring your body, and unconditionally loving
0:16.6	your authentic self. Stay tuned if you're ready to embrace your real. Let's get and let's go.
0:27.4	Hello and welcome back to another episode on the Embrace Real podcast. I'm so glad that you're
0:32.6	here, whether you're on a walk, whether you're folding laundry or driving to work. You're listening
0:36.3	to this while you sip your coffee. Today's episode is one that I really want you to soak in because we need to
0:41.7	talk about something that might be sabotaging your progress. And I'm not talking about your
0:46.0	workouts. I'm not talking about your nutrition. I'm actually talking about how you talk to
0:50.8	yourself. We all have that inner voice, right? And for many of us, that voice is so
0:55.9	harsh, but we don't even know. We don't even realize how critical it is. Like, it's saying things
1:01.1	like, you should be further along. Why can't you just be more disciplined? You're so lazy. You messed up
1:05.8	again. And the thing is, we think that this voice is actually helping us. We think that it's keeping us in check,
1:12.2	that it's keeping us accountable, making sure that we don't slip up. But the truth is that
1:16.3	voice might actually be the very thing that's holding you back from your goals. And so in today's
1:21.2	episode, we're going to be diving into what the research says about self-criticism versus
1:25.6	self-compassion. And I'm going to really walk you through
1:28.3	how to practice self-reflection without spiraling into shame. And I want to give you actual scripts
1:34.1	that you can use to reframe that negative self-talk in the moment so that when it does show up,
1:40.6	you have something to combat it. And this isn't about being soft or letting yourself
1:45.6	off the hook. Instead, it's about creating the kind of internal environment where growth is
1:50.9	actually possible. But before we dive in, I want to share this review. It comes from Biscuits and
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