Hi, everybody. Thanks again for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today's topic is really

important. And we're going to be talking about why you're still single or better yet

why you believe you're still single. The reason why it's so important is our beliefs about why we are

where we are have a huge impact on how we show up in the world, like what actions we take, and those actions

ultimately create our results. So you could say that your beliefs are a part of the recipe that

creates your future. So when I ask you the question, why are you single? What is your answer? Take a few seconds just to think about

this, why are you single? So I'm going to go through some of the most popular answers that I hear

from people, and I'm going to talk about the effects of that belief. So the first answer that I hear a lot is

I just haven't met the one yet. And this is super tricky because it can go one of two ways. So it can

either go positive where, for example, if I went on a date with the guy when I was single,

if he asked me, oh, so why are you

single? Why are you not in a relationship? I would probably say, oh, I just haven't met my guy yet.

I'm just haven't met anybody that I want to settle down with yet. And so it can be positive in that sense,

like, oh, I'm just still exploring that kind of thing.

However, when I was younger and I had just started dating and I started to realize that it wasn't

like the movies and it wasn't as easy as I thought, I used that as a reason to not make any changes within myself. So, for example,

I believe that I wouldn't have to work on myself. I wouldn't have to set any standards.

I wouldn't have to work on any conversation skills. If I met the one, the right guy, all of that stuff would be easy and it

would just fall into place. So there's no need for me to improve on my part. And that's when that belief

becomes very dangerous. The truth is, you could meet a lot of great guys, but sometimes we also have

to work on our dating skills or our conversation

skills or our comfort with setting boundaries or our ability to see how compatible we are with

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