Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

I think there's a number of things in a relationship that become the cornerstones of the demise okay indifference and contempt and

neglect and violence are probably the four and

violence are probably the four most important.

I'm not talking about big violence.

Microaggressions are plenty.

Indifferent, when you start to feel like the other person fundamentally is not really caring about you anymore

or you don't care about them what they feel what they think who they are what they're about

they just don't care you've lost interest but it's more than losing of interest.

It's also when you are the indifferent you degrade the other person, they're less important

to you, they don't matter.

And ultimately what we feel in relationships is that we matter. And ultimately what we feel in relationships is that we matter.

That is the essential reason for connecting to people is that we are creatures of meaning.

I matter to you. I'm someone. You care about me. you're proud of me you want good for me you're benevolent all of that when you are indifferent

when you are indifferent the whole thing goes and then you start to this that

coldness that creeps in that sense of

a strange man that complete disconnect that the second one is neglect

neglect when people just basically take each other for granted you know I they take more

care of their car than of their partner or dog or their dog anybody anything their

yard anything anything gets attendance they're business for sure they're business for sure. You know everything gets priority

everything gets reviewed, evaluated, attended to 360s,ies you name it you know new input

you in my god it's like people have this idea that they put it all in when they were

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