Who's to Blame? Determining Your Part in Marriage Issues: Episode 339
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 16 April 2024
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Who's to blame for your frustrating problems and patterns in your relationship?
It's obviously your partner, right... they're the problem. No… blaming them doesn't get you anywhere, in fact it makes things worse and more difficult to get out of.
If there's one thing that is inarguable in social psychology it's that relationships are bi-directional.Meaning, your attitude, actions, and choices affect your partner's attitude, actions, and choices, and vice versa.
Unfortunately many couples stay stuck in frustrating cycles or without a solution because they aren't in a problem-solving state. If you truly operate as a team and dive a little deeper into WHY you keep encountering this frustrating pattern, you can overcome it together.
In this episode you'll hear a deep-dive into:
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The 5 root causes of most marriage problems/issues
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4 self-reflective questions to ask yourself to identify your partner in the situation
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Understanding more about a psychology approach to effective problem solving
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. |
| 0:02.5 | We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate |
| 0:08.0 | like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team. |
| 0:11.0 | No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your host, Erin Freeman. |
| 0:14.0 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:17.0 | And this episode is, who's to blame? |
| 0:20.0 | Determining your part in marriage issues. |
| 0:22.3 | Well, your partner is definitely the one to blame. |
| 0:24.9 | That's for sure. |
| 0:25.7 | Yeah, we just end that podcast right here. |
| 0:27.2 | That's what this episode's going to be about. |
| 0:29.1 | Your partner is the villain. |
| 0:30.7 | They're wrong and you should leave them. |
| 0:32.8 | No, that's not obviously our message. |
| 0:35.1 | But naturally, in our private sessions with couples, we'll see |
| 0:39.3 | that a recurring issue, frustration, problem, and the relationship keeps happening, and they keep |
| 0:44.9 | pointing the finger at each other. And you can stay stuck there forever, right? You can feel like, |
| 0:50.8 | gosh, we keep encountering this again or this always causes the conflict |
| 0:54.3 | or we don't repair for days because we're constantly pointing the finger at each other. |
| 1:00.1 | And the tricky thing with emotions is that emotions really can cloud our mind. |
| 1:04.6 | Number one, our memory is not as good when we're experiencing strong emotion and we're very |
| 1:09.2 | biased in our own favor. But we can also use that emotion that we're experiencing strong emotion and we're very biased in our own favor, but we can also |
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