Oh, you got a kid.

And I was like, yeah, can you hold my baby for a second? And in your brain, you're like,

oh, God, baby, please don't cry. Please don't cry. Why he's in your hands? You're going to scare him off.

And then I'm like, how could I possibly know if I should be with a man if I haven't already seen him with a kid?

This is how dating should always go. On the first date, someone should hand him a baby

and see how he does.

Because of how deep my suspicion of men's motives are,

I saw men leave so much.

So it was like, don't be too much, don't ask for too much,

don't overwhelm them, don't be too much.

You have to make it easy for them to

stay. You know, your personality is already a lot. I was looking for a boyfriend. I wasn't looking

for a father that was like a big shift. And then what kind of person do I want to be? Because I was

spending all this time trying to be a good girlfriend to a guy or a good wife.

Wait, why don't I work on being a good mother and then I'll attract the person?

A lot of my friends have been like, you came off so hard and being pregnant kind of softened you.

I was just attracting people that were into that mask I was wearing.

Pregnancy, you're so vulnerable. Something that happened after I had a kid is I couldn't be funny.

I couldn't be available, intimate in any way. And so I was able to attract someone that I don't

think I could have attracted before.

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