Well, we have six children, my wife and I, and with all of those different kids and

their different love languages, I know at least one or two of them have a love language

of quality time. In fact I spent some time with

her last summer and it just wasn't enough. It was sort of like okay we're done I've

got to leave. Oh could we do one more thing? Yes, I will.

I'm John Fuller, along with our vice president of parenting here at the ministry, Dr. Danny Huerta.

And let's hear from Dr. Gary Chapman who wrote about the love languages in a terrific little

resource, the five love languages of children. He spoke with Jim Daly and his wife Gene

about the love languages. Last time we covered words of affirmation.

Today he talks about quality time.

Gary, let me pick up from last time we covered the first two love languages,

physical touch, and words of affirmation the next three

let's just start with quality time what does that communicate to a child and

again I think this is one where I can fumble a bit so you can chastise me.

It's quality time. So talk to both of us on this. A lot of dads probably struggle here.

Yeah. Quality time is giving the child your undivided attention. Yeah, that's the problem.

You know, in today's world, we are multitaskers, you know, so okay, your kids talking to you and you're on your computer or you're

reading a magazine and you're listening but they don't have your full

attention and that's not quality time and so the child feels like something on his computer is more important than I am.

Or if you're talking to a child and having a conversation and your phone rings and you answer your phone,

again to that child it says somebody out there is more

important than I am now I understand some people have to be on duty you know

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