When you want them to hurt
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 15 October 2021
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
What happens when the hurtful behavior stops and you are free to be yourself? Does the relationship now go back to normal like nothing ever happened?
It can, but it rarely does. In fact, most victims of emotional abuse want the person who hurt them to feel what they went through. They want the abuser to suffer.
Is that reciprocal emotional abuse? That's the question I answer in this episode.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior |
| 0:15.1 | so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:30.5 | Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. So glad you were here. Welcome to love and abuse. My name is Paul and all the information |
| 0:35.5 | on the show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:38.5 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:44.1 | I think that advice has been passed down through the ages, and I think it's good advice, which is why I repeat it here. |
| 0:50.6 | And I've got an email that I'm going to get right into. |
| 0:52.9 | This person says, my husband is emotionally abusive and just started your healed being program. I've been listening |
| 0:59.6 | to your podcast and heard that the abuser wants the victim to feel bad. I want my husband to feel |
| 1:07.3 | bad, guilty, ashamed for how he treated me. He destroyed the person I once was. |
| 1:15.5 | Does that make me emotionally abusive as well? Thank you for sharing that and I'm sorry you had to go |
| 1:23.1 | through this. A couple pieces of good information here. He's joined Healed Being. If you haven't |
| 1:29.6 | heard about that, at least anyone else is listening now, that's over at HealedBeing.com. It's for |
| 1:35.1 | the emotional abuser that wants to change. And if you are in a relationship with an emotionally |
| 1:42.0 | abusive person and they say they want to change, |
| 1:45.7 | they want to heal and they want help, then you can suggest that program for sure. |
| 1:54.0 | I don't recommend suggesting programs like that or healed being itself for anyone that isn't willing to and ready to change. |
| 2:05.2 | Because here's what happens. |
| 2:06.6 | If you suggest some sort of healing program or therapy to anyone that has been emotionally |
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