When You Outgrow Your Coping Mechanisms

Calm it Down

Chad Lawson

Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 895 Ratings

🗓️ 30 September 2025

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

That thing that once helped you get through might now be quietly holding you back. In this episode, we talk about what it feels like to outgrow old coping strategies and how to let them go with compassion instead of shame. Sometimes growth means thanking the armor that kept you safe, then gently setting it down as we Calm it Down in 3…2…1.

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0:00.0	Hey, if Calm It Down has ever helped you breathe a little deeper or sleep a little better
0:06.8	or just feel a little less alone, there is a way to help keep this going. It's called Comet
0:15.2	Down Deeper. You've heard me mention it before, I'm sure. but you get daily morning affirmations early episodes um
0:24.9	you get live meditations that are coming even the occasional behind the scenes chaos
0:30.4	like when i leave for tokyo in two days yes i edit all of these at midnight, sometimes with pizza rolls, sometimes with
0:39.2	not. And that sounds like something worth supporting. If you had heard over to comment down
0:46.3	podcast.com and click deeper, it would mean a lot. And if not, that is okay. We are still
0:53.4	in this together. Now, on with the show.
1:00.4	Just a really quick mention. I am playing some live shows this October 2025, for those late to the party with the podcast.
1:10.9	If you are in Dublin, Amsterdam, or Hamburg, or just want a good excuse for a fun little holiday to any of those beautiful cities, come see me.
1:23.1	I would love to see you.
1:24.7	Details are at chadlosson.com.
1:31.4	I hope to see you there. Thanks. Now really,
1:39.2	on with the show. You know, we all have ways of coping. Little strategies, quiet habits,
1:50.0	things that once helped us get through. Maybe it was staying busy, so the silence didn't get too loud. Maybe it was pulling back, so no one saw the hurt. Maybe it was humor or perfection or pretending everything was fine or fill in the blank.
1:59.0	And at the time, these things worked. I mean, they kept us
2:03.6	afloat, right? They gave us shelter emotionally. But here's the truth. What saves you in one season
2:11.9	can quietly harm you and another. I'm Chad Lawson and let's comment down in three, two, one.
2:28.3	So coping mechanisms, they are survival tools, right?
2:35.3	They're how the mind and the bodies say, I need to get through this.
2:40.3	So let's define that, right?
2:42.2	And so they work until they don't.
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