I think it's safe to say that those of us who call ourselves Christians feel that one of the most important things we can do is equip our kids with a vibrant faith so they go off into adulthood able to handle the realities of life and to deal with the difficulties of life. Because the truth is we can't do anything about their faith after they leave. There's only so much you can do

once they leave the home or leave your orbit. I'm John Fuller in the studio today with

Dr. Danny, he heads up our focus on the family parenting team.

And Danny, there are so many scenarios in which a young adult child is struggling,

making poor choices, and as a parent, we want to swoop in and rescue them.

That doesn't really work, does it?

No, John, and I think we can still model our faith

to our adult children.

We can still have very deep conversations with them. And then

sometimes when our kids are making poor decisions, they clearly may not see the fact that they're

poor decisions. And I remember a time with an adult child

that came into the office with his parents.

And he said, if my parents would just let me smoke pot

at the house as an adult man, things would be fine if I could just do video games and

do whatever I wanted to we would be at peace everything would be great and for him

for him and I remember that the parents feeling helpless and powerless with this very strong personality child that they had

And I said you guys need to have very strong boundaries. These are unhealthy things that your son is choosing to do.

Boundaries are going to be very loving and helpful for him to grow up.

So you guys aren't maintaining him for the next 20 years.

And they had such a hard time with that, especially, and this happens often,

there's no offense to moms, but it usually happens to the mom that she feels bad for her son and man you'll come

around and she's hopeful and in those moments of letting them know that you are

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