It is the surrender into the reality and loving the reality that allows a relationship to be good.

It allows you not to lose yourself.

I'm Brett Kistler, and this is the art of accomplishment, where we explore living the life you want with enjoyment and ease.

Today's episode is a coaching session where Joe coaches a woman who is struggling with a feeling

that she needs to be good enough to be in a relationship.

As she and Joe explore what it means to be enough for herself and for others, she discovers

an underlying desire for control, along with a deep fear of self-abandonment.

Let's find out what happens as they unpack enoughness and how it reshapes her understanding

of love, connection, and relationships.

Hi.

Hi.

Good to see you.

It's good to see you, too.

So what are we working on today? What's the deal?

What's the deal?

I can link this back to a conversation we had this summer where you said to me something

along the lines of you appeared to be like an attractive put together woman.

Why aren't you in a relationship?

And we talked a good bit about that.

But what I realized is like the thing that you encapsulated in that sentence is something I've really deeply internalized, not from that conversation, but throughout life of if I am put together and attractive enough, then I will be in a

relationship.

I will have this thing that I really want.

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