Hi everybody. This is Amber from the women's dating and confidence podcast, and today I'm going to be answering the question, when should you have sex for the first time with the guy that you're dating if you want it to lead to a relationship and not just a casual fling?

So some of the fears that women have around having sex for the first time is that either he'll think that you're too easy and then he will lose interest and not want to move things forward or at least not in a serious way.

Like he doesn't want a relationship.

Or women can also be worried about being used for sex and dating a guy and having sex with somebody who doesn't really see their value as a human being and is only interested in that one thing.

And that can bring up a lot of fears about when to have sex for the first time because you're worried that you're going to

completely ruin everything if you really do like this person and you don't want to do that. So

it brings up a lot of worries. So here's what you need to know. Sex is a neutral circumstance.

And depending on your thoughts around it and the investment that both of you have put into

getting to know each other and spending time with each other and all of that stuff,

sex will have a different feeling to it.

So if I have sex with somebody on the first date, that's going to feel very different than if I wait

until I'm in a relationship with somebody and we already have all of this emotional connection

and we've spent a lot of time together and we've built up to it, that's going to feel

very different to me than if we just do it casually on the first date. Now, neither one of those

is better than the other. If you are just looking for something casually, then you can treat

sex as a casual thing and have sex on the first date and you will have a

casual sexual relationship. But if you're wanting things to be more serious, then it's important

to wait until you both have invested something in their relationship over time and until you both

have an emotional bond. Now, it's also important to

realize that in general, men are able to have sex without an emotional connection and feel

fine afterwards, whereas oftentimes women, even if you have sex on the first date and you're not connected to that person

at all, you may feel more emotionally vulnerable after that and more emotionally connected.

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