Hi everybody. Thank you for listening to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber,

and today I'm going to be talking about accepting negative emotion instead of resisting it.

So often when negative emotion arises in our life, we resist it so strongly and it just perpetuates it. So imagine having some

anxiety in the morning. That's normal. That can happen. But then you have some thoughts like, oh my gosh, I can't

believe I'm feeling this again. I thought I was over this. This is never going to stop.

What is wrong with me? Nobody else is going through this. And as you're thinking about that,

the entire day, the anxiety grows and it stays. It doesn't go away. And the worst part is, the more that

you try to make it go away, the stronger it grows. So maybe you try meditating. Maybe you try writing out

your feelings. Maybe you try watching a YouTube video. And maybe some of those things help for a short

while, but then it just returns and you feel

even more discouraged and then you start being critical of yourself for not being able to make it

go away and what's wrong with you and all of that stuff. This happens to so many of us and it still

comes up for me every once in a while and I feel that resistance initially when the negative emotion

comes up. And today I was talking to a client during a coaching session who was feeling exactly that.

And there are two main things that can really help with this. The first thing is something that I

learned from my mentor, Dr. Aziz, and it's a coaching tip,

which is when a client is in a really negative, pessimistic state to not try and cheer them up.

Because have you ever felt that way like you felt really depressed? You felt really drained.

You felt really discouraged. And somebody was like,

oh, just think positive. Just change your mindset. Just think about it this way. Don't feel bad.

Don't feel bad. And you're like, I can't. Like, I just feel this way and I can't make it go away.

And the more somebody tries to cheer you up, the more you feel like they don't understand you,

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