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I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thanks for joining me for another episode of love and abuse.

I received a message that talks about somebody who's getting love bombed in the relationship,

not at the beginning of the relationship, but they're already in a relationship has been established for a while. And they said that you usually talk about it

happening at the beginning of a relationship. Love bombing, you know, excessive gift giving

or complimenting or saying how wonderful you are and love bombing at the

beginning of a relationship is suspect it's not always a bad thing but it's

suspect it's like there is an excessive amount of compliments and gifts or

saying all the wonderful things that you want to hear, but to what end?

What is the purpose of that?

The emotionally abusive person, the controlling or manipulative person is going to love bomb to lure you in.

They're going to lure you in to a relationship that might be toxic.

How do you know? How do you know if the love bombing, the gift giving, the excessive compliments?

How do you know if it's unhealthy? Well, first of all, it's going to feel a little too amazing or a little too good.

Now, if you're already aware of love bombing, it may not feel that way at all.

It may feel dysfunctional.

And it might should.

It might should feel dysfunctional. I didn't say that right, but it should feel

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