When they go silent and emotionally disconnect from you
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 879 Ratings
🗓️ 29 November 2023
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
When the emotionally abusive person goes silent in order to make you feel guilty and give them the attention they want, do they have a deeper motive of self-preservation? When abusers use silence to control you, there's a lot going on under the hood. In this episode, I share my personal history of using the silent treatment to control the people I claimed to love.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, |
| 0:05.0 | from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.1 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:13.9 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.1 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:29.3 | Thank you for tuning into another episode of love and abuse. |
| 0:31.3 | If this is your first time, welcome to the show. |
| 0:34.1 | And if you are returning, welcome back. |
| 0:35.9 | And I hope you get some value. |
| 0:41.2 | In this episode, we're going to get right into the question that somebody sent me. |
| 0:48.5 | This person wrote, thank you for your podcast, has given me so much relief so many times through the process of waking up to abuse. |
| 0:51.7 | I have a question regarding the episode that you created called, |
| 0:54.2 | Should You Give In to into their perception of you? |
| 1:00.0 | You talked about how the abuser uses the silent treatment and that they probably have things they want to tell you and they feel that they can't say it or they can't say those |
| 1:05.0 | things. |
| 1:05.8 | I have heard you talk about this many times and it's very interesting and thought-provoking. |
| 1:09.5 | It leads me to a question I would really love for you to respond to when you say that what they really want |
| 1:15.9 | to tell us is probably something that may sound bad selfish or even mean this makes sense |
| 1:22.9 | to me because it shows how more covert abusers probably carry some thoughts and feelings that are very similar |
| 1:28.9 | to the more overt abusers who verbalize their thoughts and feelings more. |
| 1:34.6 | So my question to you is, what does the abusive person have to do to change on a deeper level, |
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