One survivor told me that when she left, her ex didn't yell.

He didn't beg.

He didn't chase her.

He just looked at her calmly and said,

You'll regret this for the rest of your life.

At the time, she thought it was just something people say when they're hurt. But over the

next four years, he took her to court over and over again. Custody motions, financial disputes,

technical complaints that went nowhere. And he rarely won. But that wasn't the point. The point was that she could never fully escape him.

This is vindictiveness, not conflict, not grief, punishment.

And if you've lived through this, you know exactly what it feels like.

Thank you. You know exactly what it feels like. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we're going to be talking about the vindictive narcissist.

And a vindictive narcissist isn't a formal diagnosis.

It is a survivor's term. But it exists because, A vindictive narcissist isn't a formal diagnosis.

It is a survivor's term.

But it exists because survivors are trying to describe something that is very, very real. And they experience someone who must always have the last word and someone who must always win. We hear that a lot on the show where the

partner, the abuser always has to win. They always have to have the last word and that happens at

any cost. And, you know, recently we had Rose's story.

And Rose saw this pretty clearly in her story.

Rose had endured years of coercive control, financial exploitation.

Her autonomy had been slowly dismantled over time. And like many survivors, when she began reclaiming her independence, something shifted.

And this threatened her abuser's self-image. Your independence doesn't feel neutral. It feels like

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