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For pretty much the entire month here, we've been talking about the reactive cycle.

And today you're going to learn more about how to respond after that cycle has kind of triggered and things are going south.

I'm John Fuller, joined by Greg and Aaron Smalley, who lead our marriage team.

And Aaron, reactions.

Oh, my goodness.

Early on, Dina could say something and I would shut down,

or I would fight back and then I would shut down.

It was just not healthy.

How about for you and Greg?

I mean, did we even have to ask?

Yeah, okay.

So you've shared time and again about how things didn't work so well.

Yes, we were both so reactive and both fighters from the very get-go in living on Denver

Seminary's campus.

Being spiritual people.

Yes, we would throw down over in-laws and Greg playing video games and Greg wanting to watch sports

all day Saturday. So there was always something. Of course, you've heard about Greg doing our

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