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Straight from the inbox, feedback at sexymargeradio.com,

as a husband that is emailed in saying, I'm not sure if I've thanked you before,

but a couple of years ago I heard you say that when you get turned down, stop acting like a puppy

walking away with my tail between my legs. It just ain't sexy. This change in attitude continues

to yield benefits in many aspects of my relationship and communication. It forces me to just

suck it up and ask for what I want and push through my fears of her response. This allows me to

share more of all of my thoughts and on our life. Sometimes I have to have self-talk and boost

myself up in the moment if I get an undesirable response, but that's fine. I keep it positive and

try to move on. By controlling my initial response and my body language, I do end up moving on and

letting it go. I haven't imploded or melted into a puddle yet, so my fear becomes less caging.

This keeps me from dragging things down and also gives her more freedom to respond.

Thanks again, keep telling us to buck up. We can do it and the more we do it, the more we can do it.

Well done. Well done. Indeed, because this is kind of the whole dynamic, isn't it, where

we go into marriage and we think things are going to unfold and there'll be just

all seamless and there'll be a synergy there and it'll just continue, right? We'll feed off

each other in positive ways, but then lo and behold there's the other side of that thing.

Right, and we do feed off each other in negative ways too. Right, or I give too much credence to a

response and it impacts me because I overreact or I take a personal or vice versa and then you're

each trying to just play defense with each other. And that's marriage. And so what we try to do here

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