Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship,

from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors.

You deserve respecting kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Welcome to another episode of love and abuse.

If this is your first time, so glad that you tuned in, I hope this is helpful for you.

And if you are a longtime listener, I think that you'll find today's episode, probably something familiar, something that you've heard before.

This person wrote a review, actually, and they asked a question in their review, which I

was surprised that I found.

I don't always get the questions that people leave in reviews, but I saw this one and they wrote,

I have a question, could you explain the reasons with people that are narcissistic and emotionally

abusive why the other person changing themselves doesn't make or encourage the abusing narcissistic

spouse to want to change.

There doesn't seem to be too many people talking about this, and I've been there and I've

done it, I've tried it all, and my spouse continues to be emotionally lazy, toxic, passing

the blame, making excuses, continuing to drain me emotionally and, frankly, be turned off by me completely,

unless he was treated with utter grace, no matter how awful he acted.

And no matter how awful he treated me, and I wasn't allowed to get upset because it triggered him.

Basically, I couldn't be any sort of normal, in my opinion.

Thank you for sharing that.

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