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I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Welcome to love and abuse.

I'm glad you can join me today.

I'm going to talk about something I talked about in episode 118.

It's called, if you don't know your limits, you won't have any. And I found an old sticky note that I had, and I use digital sticky notes on my computer. And I have a collection

of them. And one of my sticky notes said what my stepfather did to my mom. All these things

is just the start of what he did to her during their relationship.

And these are what happened in an abusive relationship that doesn't end.

That's why I'm referencing if you don't know your limits, you won't have any.

That's so true. If you don't know what your limits are, you won't have any. That's so true. If you don't know what

your limits are, you won't have any. And what ends up happening? And this sort of reminds me of

when someone gets pregnant, when woman gets pregnant and has a baby, it's according to my partner

or Hasha, it's the worst pain imaginable. But then when you think about the pain,

you know, the pain that you had back then, you can't imagine it. It doesn't register.

And it's almost as that the pain wasn't as bad as you remember having it, if that makes

sense. It probably does for any moms out there.

So I think the body is forgetting the pain so that you can have another child so that you can

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