Girl I was talking to stopped responding.

Do I go straight to no contact until she reaches out?

So you got to think of dating as like tennis.

So guys who are needy and neurotic, I like to use the example of like the crazy monkey in the zoo

who's flinging his jizz and feces and everybody screaming and yelling, you know, grabbing the bars

in his cage.

And that guys can appear like that when they get really, you know, they meet a girl, they go out

and a date, maybe they hook up or whatever the first.

And they were like thinking, this is going to be my wife.

This is great.

And then they just start losing their shit and becoming weak and every time she takes

10 minutes longer or two hours longer to respond he thinks there's something wrong and he's paranoid

and he's fearful he starts worrying about other guys and then he starts pursuing harder it creates problems and attraction because then he starts worrying about other guys and then he starts pursuing harder it creates problems

and attraction because then he starts acting unworthy so what you got to understand is that dating's like

tennis and you hit the ball over the net and you got to wait for her to hit it back because you want

to be chosen as well you want her to want you and a girl who likes you and that you're not turning off is going to make the effort. So if you called her, if you texted her, just let her be. Assume that, hey, maybe she's busy. She'll get back to me when she can. Instead of getting angry and like, why did you wait? Why didn't you, are you playing games with me? Why did you wait to two hours to text me back? We were right in the middle of a conversation. I had to step into a meeting or my boss came in my office. I couldn't keep texting you. Sorry. But if you just started dating something and he's already gone, boom, full jack in the box on you, it's going to turn you off.

So in this case, instead of sending multiple texts, hey, are you okay?

Did something happen?

Why haven't you responded to me and looking needy and insecure and like the crazy monkey in the cage at the zoo thrown is jizz and feces at everybody?

So don't be that guy. Don't be desperate. If you messaged her and she hasn't replied, just leave her be. Even a week or two goes by. She might come up with, maybe she was seeing somebody else. And if you went out like one date and maybe the ex-boyfriend, she thought they were going to get back together or whatever. And then you don't hear from her for two weeks. Or maybe another guy. She had been out like two or three dates more. She thought I was going to progress with him. And then so she spends a bunch of time with him. And then a few days later it gets turned off because that guy's kind of a douche or whatever. And then a week or two has gone by. and the reason she didn't reach out was because she felt like she was going to probably get serious with this other dude, so she didn't want to lead the other guy on or whatever, or just she let it be. Because she didn't want to tell him no for good. She wanted to give this other guy a chance, and then we could go spy, and then she reaches back out. And so if a dude goes full jack in the box or sends 100 texts or gets mad or angry, now he's without realizing he's just completely turned her off and now she's scared of him. Whereas if he hadn't heard from her in two weeks and she reaches out, you're like, hey, great to hear from me. What do you've been up to? You know, I was like, I'd love to see you. Let's get together. And then she's like, oh, I'd love to see you too. Sorry,

I've been busy. I've been out of pocket or I had this going on. And then you go out and then she tells you honestly, my, you know, ex-boyfriend called and I'm still getting over that. And I thought maybe he wanted to work it out or this other guy had been out on a couple dates,

you know, before you, it's like kind of wanted to get serious. And we had a really good time. And then he started acting weird after about a week or whatever and kind of creepy and totally turn me off and scared me. And so I apologize, I didn't get back to you for a couple weeks. But that was what was really going on. I didn't want to lead you on if I was going to get serious with him. She might say something like that. So that's why it's important. Hit the ball over net. Let it be. Because if you never hear from her again, then she doesn't care. But if you keep barrage in her and begging her to pay attention to you, you'll turn her off. Yeah, also I feel like maybe, I guess that seems like that was the only girl he was talking to. If he's that concerned that she's not talking to him back, you know? Yeah, but even then, it's very desperate of him to do. Yeah, I know, that's what I'm saying. That's a huge turn off. I mean, he should be, you know, going on different days. maybe that's what she's doing too. You should both until you're, you know. Until you're fully committed, I think that you guys should totally be dating, like, other people. Just assume she's not that interested and move on. And then if she reaches back. You should be letting her win you over anyways and may the best girl win win you're having a fun time talking to new people right

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