What do you do with debilitating guilt?

Crushing guilt, regret.

Holding on to that as you go through life, thinking about what you did to somebody else or something

else, an animal or person or how you changed someone's life, not in a good way.

Or maybe things turned out okay anyway, but you still feel bad.

I had somebody write about how they treated their partner.

And every time I read something like that, how somebody treated their partner,

I'm always reminded of how I treated people in my past.

The people that I was supposed to love, the people that I was supposed to show support and care about and want to see

them happy.

I'm also reminded about how I used to treat animals when I was a child and even into my 20s.

I started treating them like they were just my property.

I didn't think about them as emotional beings as I do now.

Because of that, there was one time that I brought my two cats to the Humane Society and I don't know what happened to them.

Again, this was in my 20s and I've told this story before if you've heard it, I'm going to tell it again.

But I feel really guilty and I felt guilty for a long time. I mean I don't necessarily feel as guilty as I used to feel because I don't believe in holding on to guilt, but it's still in there.

It's still in there somewhere.

I can feel it when I talk about it, when I write about it, when I think about it feelings come up. So the person who wrote to me

in the Heeled Being program that I run I had to talk about guilt and how he felt guilty and he feels miserable that he put his partner through

their through all the suffering from his emotionally abusive behaviors.

So I replied to him and I said, you know, here's my analogy. I brought

my two cats to the Humane Society when I was in my 20s because they were a big inconvenience

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