When Shame Becomes Your Identity - Live Coaching Session

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 598 Ratings

🗓️ 6 July 2026

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

I sit down with Charles as he opens up about a lifetime of searching for belonging after growing up without consistent parental support. Together, we unpack the shame he carries from past decisions, the emotional wounds that kept him looking for community in all the wrong places, and why true healing begins with self-forgiveness rather than self-punishment. We explore the power of confession, the importance of finding a place to safely tell your story, and what it really means to come home to yourself. If you've ever struggled to let go of your past or felt like you never truly belonged, this conversation is for you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Welcome to the Coaching Session

01:20 - The Weight of Shame and Past Mistakes

03:32 - Childhood Abandonment and Early Trauma

06:25 - Searching for Belonging Through Psychedelic Communities

13:21 - When the Search for Healing Goes Wrong

16:09 - Learning to Stop Being Strong All the Time

20:26 - Carrying Secrets and Living With Regret

23:36 - Feeling Like an Orphan in Search of Home

26:58 - Fatherhood, Softness, and Breaking Survival Mode

31:05 - Why Confession Is the First Step Toward Healing

36:09 - Finding the Path Back to Yourself

42:04 - What It Means to Come Home Within

44:32 - Healing Before Helping Others

49:56 - A Daily Practice for Self-Acceptance

56:24 - Final Reflections and Next Steps

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0:00.0	All right, my friend, welcome to the arena.
0:11.9	Glad to have you here.
0:14.0	And for those that are listening, we are going to dive in and kind of do a one-on-one session.
0:20.1	If you've tuned in to some of my other sessions that are
0:23.3	like this, you kind of know what to expect. But why don't we start off with what you're looking
0:29.8	to address? Actually, how are you feeling? How are you feeling coming to this? I know there's a lot of
0:34.3	emotion right before we hit record, just kind of getting into what you're going to talk about.
0:40.0	And so how are you feeling just before we even start?
0:43.0	Yeah, thanks, Connor.
0:45.3	I'm feeling elated.
0:49.6	I'm feeling that there's this heaviness in my chest that's been there for a long, long time.
0:59.1	I'm feeling obviously some fear and a little bit of excitement as well, but most of it is just i think it's just my body is telling me
1:15.6	that it's time and it's ready and you need to go through this and walk through the fire
1:21.2	yeah got it got it well why don't we begin how we always begin, which is if you can share a little bit with me about why you signed up and what you'd like to address or confront or specifically to resolve in this session knowing that we, you know, we've got an hour together and we'll do our best.
1:47.0	But what are you looking for?
1:48.8	I'm looking to, I feel like I need to reconcile with myself for the mistakes that I've made.
2:09.4	And it's literally this huge cross that I carry all the time.
2:13.1	And it's heavy and it's very heavy.
2:17.9	And it affects every single part of my life.
2:25.1	And it's hard to move on.
2:27.2	It's hard to move on.
2:32.3	It's hard to move forward when I'm constantly thinking about the mistakes that I've made, the trouble that I've caused, the pain that I've, the pain that I've endured as well as caused others.
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