Frisco, a listener, writes and asks this,

Hi Pastor John, I want to propose to my girlfriend and as I prepare for marriage,

thoughts of my past mistakes come to mind. I think back to women I slept with before I was saved

in mistakes I made with my current girlfriend who, Lord willing, I will marry.

People often speak of the purity to be saved for marriage and how terrible it is to squander that.

What truths do you have to share with a man or woman such as myself struggling with regret

related to past sexual mistakes and their current consequences in the context of marriage and

engagement? I am real eager to address this. This is a real and huge issue and it always has been

because millions of people have been converted and will be converted to Christ

out of a life of sin not before a life of sin. That's normal.

Evangelization of the world means we're rescuing people after they have done horrible things,

not before. He's not in an unusual or unique position. What shall we think about these previous

sins or probably in his case, Sirius sins committed after faith? I think the main thing I want to say

to Frisco is this, virginity is a precious gift that you cannot give to your fiance nor she you.

That is a great sadness and a great loss but there are gifts you can give her and God will

multiply those gifts so wonderfully that the loss will not be destructive. That's what I want to

say and here's what I mean. You said, Frisco, that you heard people say, save yourself sexually

for marriage and it's a terrible thing to squander that. Well, I say yes, yes, yes, that's exactly

right. That's exactly what I think Paul and Jesus would counsel any virgin first Corinthians

18, flee fornication. Your body belongs to God as a single person and it will belong to your future

spouse. Be good to think about this for Corinthians 7. The husband should give to his wife for

conjugal rights. That means sex and likewise the wife or husband. For the wife does not have

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