When Our Kids Seem Troubled by Our Emotions and Moods

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 26 November 2024

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

In this encore episode, a parent writes that she and her husband are concerned their toddler feels responsible for their emotions. This is a trait they both recognize from their own backgrounds. “He asks again and again, ‘Happy, mommy?’ as if he’s trying to help me be happy.” This mom says that if she admits to her toddler that, no, she is not entirely happy at the moment, he gives her hugs and cuddles and persists in asking if she's happy. While these parents want to foster their child’s empathy and sensitivity, they don’t want him taking on the burden of other people’s emotions. They’re hoping Janet has some advice to help manage this delicate balancing act.

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0:42.5	Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled. So today I'm going to be responding to a
0:49.0	question from a parent who is concerned that her son may be feeling responsible for her and her husband's emotions.
0:58.1	She wants to relieve him of that pressure and also encourage empathy.
1:03.6	And while I'm going to be speaking to the specifics in this situation,
1:08.3	there are several themes that come up through this family's letter
1:11.7	that apply to so many of us as parents. And I'm thinking, I'm hoping, that there will be
1:19.2	themes in this podcast for everybody to relate to. Okay, here's the email I received.
1:26.9	Hi, Janet. My husband and I have been following your podcast and blog
1:30.1	since our son was about three months old. He's now 28 months. While we have definitely had our
1:36.1	challenges, pandemic not included, I can't imagine any other way to parent him. He's blossomed
1:41.6	into an extremely sensitive, smart, and sweet toddler. I've had so many beautiful successes parent him. He's blossomed into an extremely sensitive, smart, and sweet toddler.
1:45.5	I've had so many beautiful successes with him that I can credit specifically to learnings from you.
1:52.0	I've tried my best to be as honest as possible, appropriately for his age, about what I am feeling
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