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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I'm going to be talking about, well, one parent's particular issue that she wrote to me about,

but really this is about almost every issue that

you bring to me. Because it's about the way that we perceive behavior and how that sends us off

into a direction that often isn't helpful and creates more frustration for us.

When children's behavior seems totally unreasonable, why are they acting this way?

That's because it is unreasonable.

It's impulsive behavior.

It stems from emotions, threat detection that puts us into dysregulation.

And this happens with children so easily.

But here's the thing.

Most of us, because we're coming from a place of reason with our children and we want our

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