When manipulative people change your reality: Crazymaking and Gaslighting
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 11 March 2019
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
Gaslighting and crazymaking are one in the same - they are both terms to describe a person that wants you to feel crazy. They do that by causing you to distrust your own decisions and make you think that you are wrong about almost everything.
They know how to turn you from a happy, assured individual with your own thoughts and ideas into a dependent, unsure and fragile person that can't take any steps without checking in with them first. Emotional abuse is insidious in nature, but crazymaking is the ultimate perception destroyer.
If you can't trust your own perceptions, you don't even know what reality is. After some time with the crazymaker, you'll come to trust the very person causing you to distrust yourself.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:31.2 | Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliati. Hey, welcome back to another episode of love and abuse. |
| 0:34.3 | And today I'm going to go over a little bit of gaslighting and crazy making. |
| 0:39.6 | And if you don't know what that means, that's just basically someone trying to change your reality. |
| 0:45.2 | Someone trying to make you believe something that isn't true. |
| 0:49.4 | And this can come in many ways, many forms. |
| 0:52.1 | It's usually done in romantic relationships when someone repeatedly twists the truth on you. |
| 0:59.2 | They are literally trying to change your perceptions. |
| 1:03.2 | And if they can do that often enough, you will start to distrust yourself. |
| 1:09.1 | You will start to believe that perhaps they are right about everything |
| 1:12.6 | they're saying you're wrong about. And if you get into this space where you start believing |
| 1:17.8 | their changing of reality, you will go crazy. I mean, that's what gaslighting is all about. |
| 1:25.5 | Gaslighting is a term that's from a movie from a long time ago in the 40s that basically |
| 1:30.1 | this husband makes his wife go crazy by changing her reality. |
| 1:34.5 | And I've read some interesting stories about people's realities changing, like the gaslighter |
| 1:40.6 | slash emotional abuser will move things around in the house and then say he didn't do it or she |
| 1:47.3 | didn't do it. And then the spouse or the partner will come home and they'll say, what happened? |
| 1:53.3 | I thought the couch was over there. Or I thought the silverware was in this drawer. Am I losing my mind? |
| 1:58.4 | And they'll say the couch was always there. Or they'll say the |
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