From dating last time to talking about marriage today,

marriage is a beautiful institution designed by God to point the world to Christ into his bride.

One wedding at a time, marriage exists for us because God decreed that Christ would purchase

his bride the church.

And because of sin, church that fallen bride must be

redeemed from her ugly sin and be made beautiful and holiness. It's an amazing drama

played out in history and in our lives and it's a drama played out in

harmonious marriages and one played out even in hard marriages too. Painful marriages are no less reflective of God's plan.

And so we have several episodes now on marriage challenges, which you can see I gathered up all those APJ episodes and summarize them into One Digest in the APJ book,

one whole section just on this topic of Hard Marriages on pages 197 to 221.

And today, Pastor John joins us over the phone for a question from a perplexed father who wrote us anonymously.

Pastor John, hello, I write to you because my adult son wants to get a divorce from his wife.

They've been married for two years and have a one-year-old son

and a newborn baby girl of only 10 days old. I am totally perplexed by the timing. I don't understand

why he feels unhappy, but he claims he is

quote no longer in love with his wife anymore. What would you say to someone who has

quote fallen out of love with her spouse and why that's no grounds for divorce?

Well, what I would say to them face to face would depend partly on their demeanor, but I don't have him face to face and so I'm just

going to say what I think he probably needs to hear whether I would say it exactly

like this I don't know but here we go. We would be

naive I think to suppose that people young or old our own children or those of others, will act on the basis of reason

and biblical truth when it comes to justifying divorce.

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