Well, it's been almost three years since our last episode on dating, Pastor John.

You briefly mentioned dating in a couple of episodes since, but no episodes devoted to the topic for a long time, our longest drought ever for such a major theme of the podcast, which you can begin to appreciate by scanning my digest of all those many episodes in the APJ book. I titled that section on

dating, romance idols, and fornication, which is pages 141 to 165. Much has been said already, but not everything.

No, because you all surprise us with great questions like this one today.

Can a single pastor date within his local church?

Should he? And why wouldn't he? Here's the email.

Pastor John Hello. I'm a 23 year old pastoral intern and MDIVE student preparing

to enter full-time ministry soon, sooner than I expected. I am a single man and find it challenging

to date while being on this pastoral track. First, I find many young women intimidated

by the stereotypes of the pastor's wife,

stewarding a meager income, maintaining a pristine public image,

and ministering to the women in the church,

all lofty callings.

Second, due to the busy amount of work in school, I meet very few women outside

of my church. Third, I hesitate to date inside my church due to my position on the pastoral

team. What's your advice for someone in my situation?

Is it appropriate for pastors to use dating apps?

And if this is even remotely possible, how would a pastor wisely date within his own church?

The closer I get to becoming a pastor, the smaller the

possibility of marriage appears to me. Your wisdom and encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

Well, I'm just smiling here because I think 95% of our listeners are not in this category.

Yeah. Of being a pastor or almost pastor who would like help in finding a wife but I'm betting 90% of them are not going to turn this off

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