Was that, is that, am I getting the right concept? No, you are, you are. Okay, but what, but what do you think? Mine, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I think most people seek validation. Mm-hmm. Because validation is a quick fix. It's a quick, like, like. I agree with that. Like, when you say validation though, is it validation from that particular person or people around? No people around. Just validation. Yeah. I can use myself as an example. Yeah. Like in the past, like validation in terms of like I'm feeling a bit like low or like low in confidence and stuff and I go and put a first track picture. What's that?

I don't do that anymore.

Yeah.

But like I'm saying like, I'm put, it's like, I need a quick like, what's it getting on? Yeah, yeah. Like, you fire. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm like, oh yeah, that feels good. And then I go away like a day later and I'm like, I thought.

I thought of all right.

I didn't do.

I ain't got it.

I got my pants.

I got my bikini pick drumming like.

It sounds silly. I feel full of all low. I didn't do. I ain't got my post.

They got my bikini pick. Do I mean? It sounds silly. But like like yeah. Like, yeah, those quick. Yeah, those quick fixes. I agree actually. I think, I don't know if that's really like, I will say that's like a good hot take and says that I think most people would actually agree with you. I don't know if most people. Really?

I don't know if most people would agree,

but I think the people that don agree with you. I don't know if most people, really? I don't know if most people would agree,

but I think the people that don't agree probably fall into the people that are actually seeking validation. Do you get by me? Yeah, yeah, that is it? Because I actually genuinely do think, actually, kind of like we were speaking on a couple of weeks ago, how like, there are a lot of like, I'll say women because we are women, but there are a lot of women who are so male focused and they'll be thinking that they're looking for love when actually what you're looking for is validation. You are happy to have basically any man. Like as in you present the guy to us and everything that you've listed on this list now we're like, why are you even with him? But the fact that you have a man validates the fact that like, well, at least I'm beautiful. I'm desirable. I'm desirable. I'm this, that and the third because there is somebody who actually wants me. Whereas he's just lusting over you. Yeah. The things that you need in a like a long-term partner with like a husband, he doesn't exhibit any of those characteristics.

But because he scratches this itch that you have for validation,

you're happy to just have him.

And then as soon as he leaves, you need someone else to fill that spot.

That just took me on to another thing, though.

I really think you need to take the lust away.

Like, don't have that first.

That's why I think that you get girls with girls with God rat, yeah, you know, no sex for a marriage and then I'm saying, if you can, yeah.

You know, you know, I agree.

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