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Love and Abuse

When boundaries don't work and how to pick the right therapist

Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

Mental Health, Lies, Emotional, Health & Fitness, Psychological, Society & Culture, Deception, Manipulation, Narcissism, Verbal, Abuse, Relationships

4.6816 Ratings

🗓️ 3 April 2020

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

Do boundaries work with emotional abusers? I received this question from someone who has tried almost everything to work with her emotionally abusive partner but is running out of options. In this episodes, I analyze the behavior she points out in the email she sent me, and also discuss why therapy sometimes doesn't work with manipulative people (and how to do therapy that does work). Love and abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook at loveandabuse.com

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

0:07.4

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

0:10.9

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

0:18.6

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

0:31.2

Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse, and I just want to remind you that all the

0:35.4

information in the show is meant for educational purposes only.

0:39.1

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being.

0:42.0

And I have to say that because, you know, we talk about a very sensitive topic on here sometimes.

0:48.9

You know, emotional abuse can turn into more aggressive behavior. Not always and I would say, you know, I'm going to put a

0:59.6

guess out there. I would say more likely than not, it won't turn into a physical abuse.

1:07.0

Physical abuse does happen and can escalate from emotional abuse.

1:12.3

But from what I've seen, if the emotionally abusive behavior has been going on for years and

1:19.7

years, and there's been no sign of any violent or physically aggressive attacks or confrontations,

1:29.6

then it's probably not going to go into that realm.

1:34.8

But I say that carefully because it can.

1:39.9

And I've heard from people that said,

1:42.3

you know, I was in an emotionally abusive relationship,

1:44.9

and then it did turn physical.

1:48.2

And these are extreme cases.

1:49.8

There are extreme cases of emotional abuse.

1:52.3

So I don't want you to tune into this show and make you think that the emotionally abusive types of relationship I'm talking about are this severe all the time.

2:03.1

You can look at my relationship.

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