This is Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and you're listening to the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast.

What happens when someone with an anxious attachment style and someone with an avoidant attachment style come together in a relationship?

Can these pairings work? And more importantly, can they be healthy? That's what we're talking about

on today's show. We're listening to Victoria Monet with an iteration of her song experience, which I think is

like a little bit perfect for today because if you listen to the song,

it's all about like, I'm hoping that you can change basically is the punchline.

And I think that many people who are in a relationship with somebody who has a fundamentally

different attachment style than they do can often

spend a lot of time and energy trying to get their partner to change, being more like them.

And that can create a lot of friction, a lot of conflict, and a lot of disappointment and a

relationship.

And that's also a lot of conflict and a lot of disappointment and a relationship. And that's also a lot of opportunity for all of us, I think, to avoid, you know,

engaging in that dynamic and instead taking a look at our own attachment styles and using

that self-awareness and our skills as we grow in our ability to manage ourselves,

regulate our own anxiety, to really create the kind of relationship that we want, no matter what

sort of attachment style our partner may have. And so that's what we're going to be diving into

on today's show. And I really wanted to

talk about this because, as you may know, if you've listened to this show in the past, my

background, I am a licensed psychologist, I'm a board certified coach, but I am also a licensed

marriage and family therapist. And that's really how I identify professionally is more of a relationship

person. And that's a lot of what we do in my practice, growing self-counseling and coaching.

And it is not at all uncommon for couples to come in for things like marriage counseling,

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