nothing transforms from a place of depletion. The babies cannot develop all their energy shunted

toward survival unless we help them develop as they're surviving. And I was in survival mode,

I wasn't developing anymore. And I had to kind of find my way back toward that if that makes sense.

So I went to the retreat, I came home feeling like, wow, that's really when I started trying to be

more intentional in my life and in the NICU was after that retreat. And then I just kept following

the little thing. So I very imperfectly tried this intentional practice. I got better at it in the

NICU. I tried to just get good at the moment because honestly anything else felt overwhelming.

But I could commit to a moment and say, I'm going to try to be intentional for the next five minutes

or when we sit down to dinner, just have one thought in my head other than slinging food to hungry

people. And so I could kind of deal with a moment and I could deal with myself if I messed up

the moment and thought, oh, I just didn't handle that well and thought, oh, this is a new one,

look at this. So I just really tried to get good at the moment.

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