What suddenly ended your five or more year relationship? Look, unless someone cheats, it's usually

not sudden at all. It's a slow, gradual, sometimes subtle change. Eventually one day you sit back

and realize, what the frick, this just isn't working out, and hasn't been working out for quite some

time, and then you end it. I was with my ex for 10 years.

We met when we were in our late teens. We were very much in love and had a great relationship.

The last year or so of our relationship, we both began to realize that we as individuals were

stunted in our personal developments because we were holding onto a relationship that had lost its spark.

People mature a lot in their 20s, and the person you were at 18 is not the person you are at 29.

I was dumped after nine years together, and I was absolutely stunned. I think what was going on was that

he stopped loving me, but didn't have the courage to end it and just kept the facade going.

One of the most painful moments was realizing I was begging him not to end this, on my knees, pleading with him because I still loved him.

I'm still embarrassed about that. It's one of those memories that makes you cringe so badly.

It left me somewhat broken. I've put my life back together in terms of a job and whatnot, but there's a part of me that feels like I've been thrown away. And if the person who loved me for that long threw me away so easily, I have a hard time believing that I'm worth someone's love and affection. I think, after a period of time, you just fall into a routine. You've been with each other for so long, it's not as simple as you're just going your separate ways. It's kind of an epiphany, that you realize suddenly all the little things have added up, they've changed, you've changed, the dynamics of the relationship have changed. You just have to make the call in the best faith for both parties, and it's not an easy thing to do. You get used to the security, the structure

and comfort a relationship brings, and the thoughts of being single again after so long is just

terrifying. The security and structure was so big for me. Breaking up wasn't just a decision of,

do I want to go on more dates with this guy or not? It was, do I want to end a day-to-day that I'm

comfortable with? Risk fracturing the friendships we've built as a couple and spend the next six months trying to rid myself of the personal habit of saying we when I mean I. Yeah, it only looks sudden, but to them it's been a slow build-up. They'd try to ignore it and keep doing the actions, but it's still there. Then usually

something happens that lets it all out. That seems to be the repeated mentor of the video here.

It must be so devastating to the party who gets left out of the blue and isn't the one

who's been feeling more of the buildup. I'd guess we're about to get a lot of stories from

some pretty heartbroken people here.

Oof, I had a kid with her.

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