What small habit about someone else raises a red flag and makes you distrust them?

Oh, and they talk mad trash about everyone around them to you, and since it's all nonsense, you just let it go in one ear and out the other,

but then the moment you vent a frustration, they run and tell everyone this exaggerated story which makes you look awful,

and the whole time you know they're at the fire starter,

but you can't say anything without looking petty. And that's how I quit my job. You'll have fun with that. When they can't be happy when their friends succeed in the ways they haven't,

if your jealousy is that profound, I don't want to be around you. One better syndrome, where no matter what your experience, your history,

or your anecdote is, theirs is better, worse, or funnier. When I was younger, we called them

the one-upers. When someone borrows something and never even attempts to return it or mention

it until you bring it up. Not respecting my decision when I say no to something

small. Thank you for letting me know that you don't respect boundaries. When they put a lot of energy

into manipulating people instead of just living their lives. Many have pointed out that what I'm

describing is not a small thing. Overall, that's true. However, what I'm talking about is the small,

subtle efforts these people make throughout the day. That's what came to mind for me when

considering the question. When they don't respect people's boundaries, borrowing things without

asking, asking personal questions when you're not close, borrowing a small amount of money and not

paying it back, Stuff like that.

They constantly talk crap about others, but all the stories are skewed to their favor.

I watch my mouth around people like that and try to only say things that I don't mind getting

out.

Bonus points if they add how these people are positively influenced by the storyteller and how he

had helped them in their lives. Being in my 30s now, it still baffles me how friends of mine on Facebook continue to post obscure statements about cutting people out who are ungrateful or what have you.

Always feels like needless drama that could have been avoided earlier on because adults, but whatever.

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