Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

Emotional cheating is a common topic in my line of work and there are so many

angles and ways into this conversation. I think I want to start with definitions. I always like

to start there, right? What is your definition? What is, well I'll tell you my definition, but what is your definition?

What is your definition of emotional cheating?

Most people, they think that emotional cheating is, you know, whenever someone has a thought about

about someone that they're attracted to or an ex or you know if you accidentally

scream your ex's name while you are having sex with your partner that

may be filed under emotional cheating. I like to define emotional cheating as more of an intention, right?

I think it's important to hang it on intention more so than

Behavior or duration so let me explain for example if you're sitting at a Wendy's parking lot and lying to your partner

where you are, you're not at the gym, but you're at the parking lot having a conversation with say a coworker or a friend or someone that

you may not even be attracted to but you're getting something from this relationship

possibly because you're not getting it at home or maybe you're going through

something or I don't know maybe there's been drift in your relationship I'm not saying any of this is okay, right?

Because you're lying to your partner about this other thing that you're that you're

doing. And there may be an ebben flow as far as attraction connection, but that to

me is less threatening than if you have an intention to feed a connection, right?

So like the example I'm talking about

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