Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So I'm sitting outside a coffee shop in my car and I have about four hours because Vanessa is taking the baby out with her friends for some playtime and I'm going to do some

reading I'm going to do some writing I'm going to do some catching up. I'm going to go home and rub one out.

And I'm thinking to myself, you know, these little things like what I just described are so valuable to me these days.

I mean like the thought of going to you know somewhere exotic on a plane right like like

for example Greece I want to go to Greece never been the thought of that right now

brings me anxiety but the thought of me having a nice hot overpriced

pour over coffee, opening up a book, doing some creative writing, you know, me time, right? Eating a sandwich, man, it's like, it's, like, it's like,

it's like gold. I mean, I don't even know what that would be worth as far as money-wise,

but it's very valuable to me these days. Now what's interesting is if you're single or if when I was single having a sandwich

and rubbing one out would just make me feel like a loser, right?

And so I think my point in me sharing this story is there are so many things that when you're single you don't appreciate because you want so

desperately to have a partner you know and I get it when I was single I I wanted to share a bed with someone I

wanted to do nothing with someone I wanted to go out and eat with someone and not

having a partner yeah it was frustrating, it was lonely, you know, all of those things, but once you get into a relationship, especially if you have children, then you look back and you're like, oh man, all the time

that I had when I was single, when I didn't have to, you know, share a Google dog calendar when I didn't have to

tell someone where I'm going to be and and and plan the day

when I could do anything at any time. I remember when I was the big stretch of my

singlehood journey. It was when I was about 30 36 or 37 and I was working in nonprofit, wasn't making a lot of money, just you know,

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