What Not Settling Actually Looks Like
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 20 January 2026
⏱️ 53 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I’m joined by Sunny, a Syracuse junior who’s doing it all — media, Greek life, friendships, and dating — and somehow staying deeply self-aware through it. We get real about college dating culture, situationships, exclusivity, and how proximity can blur the line between liking someone and just being attached. Sunny opens up about toxic dynamics, knowing when to walk away, and learning to choose herself before a relationship.
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| 0:00.0 | Sunny, welcome to seeing other people. |
| 0:04.6 | Thank you so much for having me. |
| 0:06.6 | I'm so happy to be here. |
| 0:07.6 | I'm so happy to have you. |
| 0:08.8 | I also am just so excited to talk to you because I really think like the more I learn |
| 0:13.1 | about you, the more I'm like, you are me from like 10 years ago, but me living at my fullest potential, which I just never explored at the time. Thank you so much. That's the biggest compliment. Like, I hear the things you're doing. Like, I look at you and I'm like, you are me, but also I could never do the things that you're doing. I'm sure you could. I'm sure you did. |
| 0:37.8 | No. |
| 0:38.7 | No, I did not. |
| 0:38.9 | Okay. |
| 0:57.0 | So backstory, when I went to Syracuse in November, the first night there was this whole like welcome event and Sunny was literally hosting it. And I'm looking at you. I'm like, this is a student. Oh my God. I know there was no amount of money that could have gotten me up on that stage when I was a student. |
| 0:58.4 | And even now, I couldn't host as well as you did. |
| 1:01.5 | And I was just like, I'm so impressed. |
| 1:03.6 | And I was like, I need to tell this girl, like how impressive she is. |
| 1:08.0 | So I DM you. |
| 1:09.4 | And I was like, oh my God, she DM me. I knew who you were, of course. I was like, wow, I got the DM. That's insane. And here we are. But I'm so excited to have you. I'm excited to hear about what's going on. We're going to talk about college dating hookup culture. We're going to talk about all the things. Getting all into it. |
| 1:29.0 | So before we get into it, can you give us a little more background on who you are? Like, what is |
| 1:34.4 | defining your life right now? Yeah. So I'm sunny. And I think like my name really describes me |
| 1:40.5 | well. I love to like stay positive, happy disposition. But I'm also very involved. And that's |
| 1:46.8 | why like I was hosting that event. I actually got that script 24 hours before and read it for the |
| 1:52.5 | first time while I was doing my makeup. That's insane. You're so pro. So I was it was a busy week. I had like |
| 1:59.9 | date night and everything, which no one knew about. But the date night was the night before. And then I was reading the script while doing my makeup. I was like, hopefully this goes well. And I'm glad to hear it did. But. That's insane. Yeah. I'm a broadcasting major. So I've always loved like all media. Like, this kind of stuff is my bread and butter. |
| 2:18.8 | I love it. |
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