What makes a great Cis, Straight Dominant Man - Authority, Kink Theory and Ethical Domination

Come Curious

Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Comedy, Sexuality

4.7 • 835 Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2026

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

This week on Come Curious, Reed sits down with kink theorist, power exchange mentor and educator Tripp Terrier to unpack one of the most misunderstood roles in BDSM: the dominant. Together they explore why true dominance isn't about control, arrogance or entitlement but instead, it's about presence, responsibility and service. Tripp shares his unique perspective on power exchange, explaining how authority is earned through knowledge, patience and skill rather than demanded through status or ego. They discuss the importance of integrating every part of yourself including the feminine and more uncomfortable aspects of your personality, and why self-awareness is one of the most powerful tools a dominant can develop. Inside the episode: - Why dominance is a giving role, not a taking one- The difference between confidence and entitlement- How power exchange can become deeply transformative- Why consent is more complex than a simple "yes" or "no"- The role of humility in healthy masculinity and leadership- Supporting partners through subdrop and emotional vulnerability Tripp also shares his essential reading list for anyone curious about kink, including The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton, alongside The Heart of Dominance and The Dominance Playbook by Anton Fulmen. Whether you're dominant, submissive, curious or simply interested in healthier models of masculinity, this conversation offers a fascinating look into power, connection and personal responsibility. Follow Tripp online @tripp.terrier Come watch the full episode, AD FREE over on Patreon: patreon.com/comecurious And tune in on all major streaming platforms - Come Curious. Follow us on Instagram: @comecurious Florence @florencebark Reed @reedamberx Our podcast is released every Thursday. Listen to the full episode wherever you get your podcasts. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4nQnVqQcEn4ptshlKjtdqo Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/f-ks-given-by-comecurious/id1444176549 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:26.8	Oh my God.
0:30.1	You're listening to Come Curious.
0:33.3	What makes a great cis straight dominant man?
0:41.3	Yeah. What Makes a Great Cistrate Dominant Man? Hello curious fuckers.
0:43.4	Oh my goodness.
0:44.4	We've got an incredible episode for you today.
0:47.6	This is something that I've been so looking forward to.
0:50.2	We are talking to Tripp Terrier, who is a kink theorist and a power exchange mentor.
0:58.1	I've really enjoyed this content online.
1:00.6	And he brings some really interesting theories and concepts to the kink space and actually just to the public space of kink that we don't normally see, especially
1:12.6	online. Now a little bit about me, what's going on in my life? I haven't done an update in a while
1:18.1	and I don't want to take up too much time of the incredible information in this podcast because
1:23.4	it is, it was really interesting to listen to. But there is a lot of gendered language in this episode.
1:30.6	And if anything in this episode, you want to talk to us about, DM us.
1:34.6	Please, please, write to us, comment on our reels and message us on Patreon.
1:41.8	While I'm here, if you want to see how sexy I look, I don't know why I'm just always sexualizing
1:48.2	myself.
1:48.7	Actually, yes, I do.
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