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🗓️ 13 October 2015
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We love to judge. To gossip. To belittle.
Not everyone, and not all the time, but enough for these feelings to fuel multi-billion dollar industries.
Even if we never say it out loud, we derive a certain pleasure from others' misfortune. There's even a name for the phenomenon—Schadenfreude.
We do it partly, because our brains are wired for comparison and social currency. And in part, because we're trained societally to determine our own value relative to others.
Pile on the anonymity of the screen or the page and we've become a culture that not only judges, but determines the entire worth of a human, all too often, by their worst moment.
We see it in the news cycle, in politics and Hollywood. But, we also see it in our towns, the local club, our own families and supposed friends.
What if the value of your entire existence was judged by the meanest thing you've said or thought, or the biggest mistake you've made? What would that look like? How might it make you feel?
What if, instead of reveling in the belittling of another human based on a moment, we looked through the lens of empathy and compassion? How might that change things?
That's what we're talking about on today's short and sweet GLP Riff.
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0:00.0 | Fever tree Mediterranean tonic water |
0:02.9 | Pfft! |
0:03.9 | Made with zesty lemon time from a small family farm in Provence |
0:08.7 | and essential oils from herbs that grow in the Mediterranean sunshine. |
0:13.5 | So, if three quarters of your G&T is a Fever tree tonic, |
0:18.8 | maybe it's time to call it a T&G. |
0:22.4 | Fever tree, mix with the best. |
0:26.9 | Ooh, that takes me straight to the med. |
0:37.9 | Today's Good Life Project RIF is entitled Don't Define People by Their Best or Worst Moments. |
0:44.9 | So, there's this odd thing that tends to exist in most humans. |
0:48.9 | We so often compare ourselves constantly to others. |
0:52.9 | And sad isn't maybe the research is pretty clear. |
0:55.9 | We're happier when we're doing better than them. |
0:57.9 | It's the reason that in research, many people would rather make $75,000, |
1:03.9 | but know that those around them are making $50 instead of making $100,000, |
1:09.9 | but know that those around them are making $125. |
1:13.9 | So, couple this with another odd quirk of humanity. |
1:18.9 | And that is a pervasive desire to see others fail or fall from grace. |
1:24.9 | We don't want to own this, we don't want to admit it. |
1:27.9 | We don't want to actually say, you know, like there's something in us, |
1:30.9 | which kind of is happy about it. |
1:32.9 | But the phenomenon is really well researched, and we see it all around us all day long. |
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