What If You Never Meet the One ft. Melyssa Ford

LOVERS by Shan

Lemonada Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

5.0 • 5.7K Ratings

🗓️ 4 March 2026

⏱️ 87 minutes

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Get $200 off your Tonal purchase! Get a complete gym + a trainer in your home by going to http://tonal.com then use promo code LOVERS for that big discount.—In this episode of Lovers, Melyssa Ford joins me for a conversation about desirability, partnership, and what it means to build a full life without centering it around finding “the one.” Melyssa has been publicly desired for decades. She’s dated wealthy men, high-profile men, and men who could provide an extraordinary lifestyle. And yet, she’s never been married and doesn’t have children. In this conversation, she reflects on what that actually means, not from a place of regret, but from a place of honesty. What happens when you are wanted by many but not chosen in the way you hoped? What if partnership never materializes the way you imagined it would? We also discuss something I call Bething, the tension between becoming the person you are meant to be and chasing the life you thought you were supposed to have. Bething is about allowing yourself to exist fully in the present version of your life, even if it doesn’t match the cultural script you were handed. It’s the practice of building something meaningful instead of waiting for someone to complete it. This episode is not about giving up on love. It’s about living well whether love arrives in the way you expected or not. It’s about separating desirability from devotion, lifestyle from longevity, and fantasy from fulfillment. If you’ve ever quietly wondered what happens if you never meet your person, this conversation is for you. Follow Melyssa Ford → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melyssaford→ Watch Hot & Bothered with Melyssa Ford (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgI18pIo71rZWq6upn_QxMgListen to Hot & Bothered Podcast: available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & all major platforms→ Get her book Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself: 13 Lessons for a Life Well Lived: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58631608-allow-me-to-reintroduce-myself?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=n6x35X4UoC&rank=1Want more Lover?Receive the weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes If you haven’t subscribed to Lemonada Premium yet, now’s the perfect time → lemonadapremium.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	For somebody like me who's never been married and is child free,
0:03.0	what are you going to do?
0:09.0	Yeah.
0:10.0	It might not happen for me in this lifetime.
0:14.0	Toronto was a screw face capital.
0:16.0	There was nobody making it out, and you were one of the small group of people
0:20.0	who gave Toronto the reputation of being the place with the most beautiful women in the world.
0:24.6	I've literally had a guy. It literally was a first hang, spend $100,000 on me.
0:29.6	I did it. I don't want it. That would be the last thing that I advised a young girl to do to look at men of means being your saving grace or your safety net.
0:41.1	How would you identify where you're at right now? My career is thriving right now. My friendship
0:45.3	groups are incredible and so fulfilling. I travel a lot. It's the decentering of men.
0:52.5	That's really what it is on a large scale.
0:57.7	Hey, lovers. My name is Shambudra. My favorite quote, the key to happiness is managing
1:02.4	expectations. So here's what to expect with this episode. You're going to listen to a conversation
1:07.2	between myself and legendary video vixen award-winning personality and podcaster Melissa
1:13.5	Ford around what happens when a woman falls deeply in love with her life and then realizes,
1:18.9	well, heck, maybe I don't need romance after all, especially in today's dating climate. You're also
1:24.9	going to see some ads in this episode. We need those to help
1:28.2	the show grow and to really make an impact. If you'd enjoyed watching this episode,
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1:38.3	This makes a very, very big difference around here. Now, if you are listening to this episode,
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