What I Wish I Knew About Sex in my 30s

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 3 July 2026

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I'm breaking down everything I learned about sex and relationships in my 30s… because this decade taught me lessons my 20s never could. I used to think if the chemistry faded, the relationship was over, but I discovered that real intimacy is something you build, not something you stumble into. I'm talking about why stress crushes desire more than attraction ever could, why responsive desire is normal (not broken), why boring sex doesn't mean a boring relationship, and why communication really is a lubrication. If you've ever wondered why talking about sex feels harder than having it, or worried that losing the honeymoon phase means you're with the wrong person, this episode is for you. This episode is sponsored by BTL: Learn more about the EMSELLA & EXOMIND treatments from BTL at BodyByBTL.com ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 3:34 Lesson #1: Chemistry Isn't Enough for Lasting Intimacy 4:28 Lesson #2:Why Communication Makes Sex Better 6:05 Lesson #3: Stress Can Kill Desire 7:56 Lesson #4: Boring Sex Doesn't Mean a Boring Relationship 9:25 Lesson #5: Your Desire Changes 11:57 Lesson #6: Your Body Isn't the Enemy 13:41 Lesson #7: Choose Pleasure Over Performance 14:30 Lesson #8: Life Can Crowd Out Intimacy 15:46 Lesson #9: Great Sex Is Something You Build 17:01 Audience Q&As Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I am so excited to finally share this with you.
0:02.6	I am going on tour.
0:04.4	It is the best sex ever tour.
0:07.3	And I hope you'll join me.
0:09.0	And the show is all about you, the audience.
0:11.5	Every night, I'm going to be answering your questions, win prizes, and leave with secrets
0:17.3	to have the best sex ever.
0:19.7	Every night is different because the show is all about you.
0:23.5	So here's the dates, July 7th in Rosemont, Illinois at Zanies, then heading to Philadelphia on
0:29.0	August 5th, Nashville on September 29th, and Austin on October 7th. More cities to come.
0:36.2	Come with your partner, your friends fly solo.
0:39.0	You'll leave with practical tools.
0:41.1	Plenty of laughs.
0:42.0	Maybe some surprises.
0:43.4	Well, definitely some surprises.
0:45.1	Visit sex withemly.com slash events for tickets and tour information.
0:49.7	I will see you there.
0:51.0	Can't wait to meet you.
0:52.4	Chemistry gets you together, but real skills keep you together.
0:56.0	The butterflies eventually settle.
0:59.0	You're not going to have the butterflies forever, but that is not the end of intimacy.
1:03.0	That's actually where the relationship can grow stronger.
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