In this episode, I'm going back to my 20s and telling you everything I wish someone had told me about sex back then. The reality is that almost nobody has a clue in their 20s, and we're all just figuring it out together. I talk about why I confused being validated with actually being desired, why I thought pleasure was someone else's job instead of my own responsibility, and how much shame was quietly running my entire sex life. I also get into why attraction alone was never enough to sustain a relationship, why stress and anxiety were wrecking my desire, and why confidence in the bedroom comes from taking action, not the other way around. If you're in your 20s trying to figure this all out, or you're older and realizing you're still carrying some of these same beliefs, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Best Sex Ever Tour Announcement 00:52 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Sex in My 20s 01:46 Setting the Scene: Emily's Sex Life in Her 20s 05:03 #1: Everyone Else Seemed to Know What They Were Doing 08:43 #2: I Thought Good Sex Should Happen Naturally 10:34 #3: I Thought Attraction Was Enough 11:53 #4: Pleasure Is Your Own Responsibility 14:38 #5: Confusing Validation With Desire 16:23 #6: Sex as Performance vs. Being Present 18:47 #7: How Stress and Anxiety Affect Desire 23:24 Do Generations Experience Sex Differently? 25:30 #8: Everyone's Erotic Blueprint Is Different 27:35 Boundaries, Attraction & What Changes With Age 33:13 #9: How Shame Was Driving My Decisions 39:03 #10: Confidence Comes From Taking Action 40:41 Final Thoughts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices