Hey coach, remember for 21 months, had an ex leave me for an older man.

She reached out three years later asking to come over and ask for a job.

I have connections.

Should I help her or ignore the message?

Well, she ditched you for somebody else and now she comes crawling back wanting your help.

More than likely, usually what that means is it didn't work out with the

other guy and she's just feeling you out but women don't like to take risks like that and so that's

typically what you see they'll go hey can you help me get a job because if you're really not

interested you you might help her get a job and other than that you just keep a business like

so she

doesn't really have to take any risk so we have to assume that really the only reason she's

coming back is she wants something maybe the only thing she wants is the job maybe she

left you because you were too nice but I mean at the end of the day do you want

another trip down memory lane?

Because if you do, I'd invite her over to make dinner at your place. I'd be following with some seven principals to get an X-back. I wouldn't meet her out or pick her up or any of that stuff. You could say, hey, why don't we get together for dinner at my place? And she said, what about the job? It's like, whoa, we can talk about it then then what your schedule like and then make it make a definite date and she's available and the reason why she's

really contacting you is she's interested in romance and hang out on fun and hook up but since

she ditched you for another guy just think of her as like a fuck buddy, your friends of benefits. And don't give her anything else. If she, say you hang out a bunch, then she mentions or talks about potentially getting back together. You can just say, honey, well, after what happened last time, the fact you left for some other dude while we were in a relationship that tells me you were cheating on me

and you were lining that guy up while we're together so I'm down to be friends of benefits

but that's all I can offer you you know like the pawn show pawn stars pawn star the guy's like

well all I can offer you is friends of benefits think of it like that that's the best I can do is friends of benefits that's the best I can do that's the best I can offer you is friends of benefits. Think of it like that.

That's the best I can do is friends with benefits. That's the best I can do.

That's the best I can do.

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