What Goes Into The Wash
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 1 February 2023
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
Iyanla noticed a pattern – whether it’s socks or a pair of pants, what she puts inside the wash is exactly what she gets back out. So when two struggling callers share their experiences with Iyanla, she decides it’s time to look at what they’re putting into their relationships from the start. The first woman feels like she’s putting her all into every romantic relationship she’s had, but when she finally lets her guard down, the love isn’t returned. And the second caller feels as though she’s seen people get burned too many times… Is it even worth trying to find love again?
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| 0:00.0 | I amma I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a married man I |
| 0:09.4 | had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy, fulfilling, and loving. |
| 0:17.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. There are two tenants that I believe are present in every single relationship, even when we don't |
| 0:47.3 | recognize it or understand it or believe that it's there. There are two tenants. |
| 0:52.0 | The first one is if you want to |
| 0:54.2 | know the end, look at the beginning. However that relationship started, it's going |
| 1:02.2 | to end up with the same issue being present. So if you |
| 1:06.3 | started dating a married person, when you leave, they're going to be with a |
| 1:09.4 | married person or you're going to be with a married person. If you started |
| 1:12.4 | the relationship on a lie, the lie is what's going to be with a married person. If you started a relationship on a lie, |
| 1:14.1 | the lie is what's going to take the relationship down. |
| 1:16.8 | If you want to know the end, look at the beginning. |
| 1:21.2 | Whatever your thoughts were, your feelings were your behaviors |
| 1:26.0 | whatever you birth that relationship in |
| 1:30.0 | it's gonna be in the coffin when that relationship ends. That's one tenant. |
| 1:35.0 | The other tenant is what shows up in the relationship is a function of what's going on inside of you. |
| 1:47.0 | If you've got a belief in rejection, it's going to show up. |
| 1:52.0 | If you've got a belief in abandonment, it's going to show up. If you've got a belief in abandonment, it's going to show up. |
| 1:56.0 | If you've got a belief that you're not a good enough or you're not enough or that you can't trust people, it's going to show up in the relationship |
| 2:05.6 | because what you put in the wash comes out in the wash. It just does. |
| 2:12.3 | Listen. |
| 2:15.0 | Welcome to the R-Spot. |
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