What Do You Do When You Can't Trust Your Spouse | Ep. 264

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.9 • 813 Ratings

🗓️ 23 October 2018

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Trust is a key component in a thriving marriage, so how do you thrive when it's not there?

In this episode Dr. Kim encourages those of you in this situation and gives you some wisdom on steps you can take.

Tune in to learn what to do when you can't trust your spouse!

NOTEWORTHY QUOTES

"I always tell people to look at your spouse's heart. See where the relationship with God is. I think when trust is broken, initially you are not going to trust that person, but you can trust God within that person. You can see that the person is being transformed." - Dr. Kim

"The job for the spouse who has been offended though is to give them a chance. If you never take that risk again to trust them again at some point, you won't ever have the marriage you want." - Dr. Kim

"Begin to pray for your spouse to believe the truth about what you say and do. Continue to share how important it is to you. But know that until that trust is rebuilt your marriage is going to be limited." - Dr. Kim

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage.
0:09.6	I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson.
0:12.8	On the show will be your host, Dr. Kim Kimberling.
0:15.5	Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years.
0:19.7	His passion is to help you strengthen your most
0:22.3	intimate relationship. This month, awesome marriage, we've been talking about emotional
0:27.9	infidelity and trust issues. Today, we're going to be talking specifically about what do you do
0:32.8	when you can't trust your spouse. It is an incredibly hard place to be when you're unable to trust your
0:38.5	significant other, especially your spouse who's supposed to be trustworthy and supposed to be
0:42.8	your partner in life. Trust is a key component to a thriving marriage. So how do we thrive when it's
0:48.9	not there? Today we're going to do our best, encourage those of you in this situation and give you
0:53.0	some wisdom and some steps that you can take. So Dr. Kay, what are some different scenarios where you have
0:58.3	seen spouses not be able to trust their spouse since we can, you know, break trust in a lot of
1:03.1	different ways? Sure. And I think there are a lot different ways. And, you know, some couples that
1:07.5	I see in counseling, there's a trust scenario that maybe because of
1:11.4	the background or everything or the expectation their spouse has happened. But the ones that we talk
1:15.6	about a lot, certainly our pornography, talk about affairs. We talk about money lies, just not
1:25.0	being honest without money of what you spent or how much money we have.
1:28.9	There's a couple I worked with about six months ago.
1:32.0	And she had no, she was never involved in the money at all.
1:35.3	He just would never let her be involved.
1:37.6	She had suspicions and then finds out that they were in huge debt that he was hiding from.
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