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I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from

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show notes and check it out. What do they really want? Cornelius Vanderbilt wanted to run away and be a sailor. This was crazy,

his mother knew. It would not just be a hard life, but an awful life. He should not join the Navy or stow away.

Besides, they needed him in home.

Yet like a parent has to understand, she grasped that trying to forbid something was the fastest

way to ensure that it happened.

Phoebe Vanderbilt knew her son well enough to sense that he did not really want to run

away to be a sailor.

Arthur T. Vanderbilt the second writes in Fortune's

children, the fall of the House of Vanderbilt. He was negotiating. What he truly wanted was a boat

of his own so that he could become a boatman on New York Harbor. Instead of forbidding it,

instead of trying to argue with him, his mother tried the softer touch that we talked about

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