Sometimes just remembering why we got together in the first place after 40, 50 years goes a long way toward then assuming goodwill in the person.

We forget that, yeah, I love was once very passionate, we had a great time, here's all the things we used to do.

How do we still do that? We forget to have fun, we forget why we chose this person in the first place.

Could just be as simple as saying.

And here are five reasons why I'm still with you after all of these years, or here are five things

that it still made me choose you back then and why I'd still choose you today.

Couples have those conversations.

It can go a long way to it really just reminding

them yeah this is what it's all about and why we're still together.

So here's the fact that really surprised me. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but there's a research that suggests that arranged

marriages actually get happy over time, and meanwhile, satisfaction declines over time for many couples who marry for love.

So how do we wrap our modern notion around how the best relationships begin and really

connected with the idea that some of the happiest couples out there

started out as total strangers that their marriages were arranged by someone else.

Turns out when people commit to long-term partnership,

knowing a little about each other,

they're actually much more motivated

to work harder at building the relationship

and that connection often deepens

from there over time, rather than falls apart. On the other hand in more love

or romance initiated relationships the opposite more often happens. Long-term

relationships they are complicated Yet when we get them

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