What Dating As A Short Man Is Really Like
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 19 March 2026
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
TW: this episode includes discussion of body image and suicidal thoughts. Please take care of yourself and only listen if you feel safe doing so.
In this deeply honest episode, a returning anonymous guest opens up about living and dating with long-term body image struggles as a man. From childhood bullying to the realities of dating apps, he shares how external judgment has shaped his confidence, mental health, and romantic experiences. We talk about height bias, masculinity, gym culture, rejection, and the emotional toll of feeling “seen but not chosen.”
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| 0:00.0 | Before we begin, a quick content warning, this episode references self-harm or suicidal thoughts. |
| 0:05.2 | Please take care of yourself and only listen if you feel safe doing so. |
| 0:12.2 | I am so excited to welcome back a previous anonymous, unfiltered guest to the podcast. It's been about four years since this guest |
| 0:24.7 | was last on to talk about being a man struggling with body image challenges. And, you know, |
| 0:32.2 | we hear about body image and eating disorders and all that from women way more often than we do from men. |
| 0:40.7 | So I am really grateful for this person for coming on, not once but twice, to talk about |
| 0:47.2 | what's been going on for him. |
| 0:48.9 | So Anonymous, welcome back to seeing other people. |
| 0:52.8 | Hey, thank you for having me back on. It's been a ride. It's been |
| 0:57.4 | crazy that's been that long since how it's last on. But yeah, happy to be on again. |
| 1:02.9 | What made you want to come back on the podcast now? What led you to reach back out and say, |
| 1:10.6 | okay, there's stuff to talk about here? |
| 1:12.1 | Kind of, well, when I went on the first time, it was right after, it was like right after |
| 1:18.4 | you started unfiltered. And I remember you, like you put out a post on social media |
| 1:24.5 | saying like, hey, I have this really cool idea. I would love to bring people on the podcast and talk about specific things they're dealing with. |
| 1:31.3 | And I remember, like, when that happened, like my hand shot up. |
| 1:34.9 | Like, oh, like me, me, pick me. |
| 1:36.1 | Like, I want to, like, I want to talk about this. |
| 1:37.8 | And at the time I was excited to, but I didn't really have any sort of plan going into it. |
| 1:43.9 | So like whenever, if I like, but I didn't really have any sort of plan going into it. So like whenever, if I like, if I like relisten to my first episode, I kind of think like, wow, yeah, I definitely didn't really have a plan for this. It was just kind of, it just ended up turning into like an hour long therapy session, which I don't know if that really helped anyone. So I was kicking myself a little bit over the past few years and kind of wishing that like, |
| 2:04.6 | okay, like I wish I could have like redone that and maybe had more of a plan for what I wanted |
| 2:09.3 | to say or how I wanted it structured or whatever. |
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