What Busy Parents Need to Know About Sex | Part 1

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Education, Sexuality, Self-improvement

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 6 January 2026

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

Many of us have inherited cultural scripts that position men as the "main character" in sexuality while women exist to serve and support. This framework turns intimacy into work instead of play—and when sex becomes work, desire disappears. In this conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Justin Coulson of the Happy Families Podcast to discuss how our ideas about gender roles undermine genuine connection. The conversation unpacks why women's desire shuts down when sexuality is framed as caregiving, why tolerated sex creates resentment on both sides, and what has to shift if you want to move from dutiful encounters to the kind of passion and intimacy you're both craving. Join us in Irvine, California this month for the Strengthening Your Relationship Workshop (SAVE $100 with code SYR2026)!

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0:00.0	what happens is people will co-create a really bad resentment-inducing sexual relationship
0:07.0	when they allow that sense of, I'll take anything, you know, something's better than nothing
0:13.3	mentality, when in fact, no, that kind of something is worse than nothing.
0:33.5	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, spirituality, and more, All featuring Dr. Finlayson Fife.
0:43.7	It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for the time poor parent, who just wants answers now. Hello, this is Dr. Justin Coulson. Welcome to the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.
0:55.1	Hello, this is Dr. Justin Coulson.
0:56.5	Welcome to the Happy Families podcast.
0:58.1	It's so good to be able to have a conversation today with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fif.
1:04.0	Now, just before I introduce Jennifer and talk about her work, I do need to let you know that
1:08.3	today's conversation is going to be about intimacy and adult relationships. Listener discretion is advised because we will be discussing
1:15.0	themes of a sexual nature. So if you've got young ones in the car and you don't think
1:18.9	they're quite ready for this conversation, have a listen a little bit later. Maybe sit
1:23.6	down with your partner and put your headphones in and have a listen when the kids are not
1:28.7	climbing all over you or sitting in the car and saying, hmm, what's that about? What are they
1:33.2	talking about? Tell me more. Of course, maybe your kids are old enough and this would be a great
1:37.5	conversation to have them join you in, but just getting the disclaimer out there. Now, Dr. Jennifer
1:42.5	Finlayson Fife is somebody who I've been listening to on her podcast for,
1:47.0	I don't know, like a long, long time.
1:49.8	Jennifer is a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a licensed clinical
1:55.2	professional counselor with a PhD in counseling psychology from Boston College. Jennifer and I share the same
2:01.9	religious affiliation. This is not going to be a religious conversation at all. In fact,
2:05.5	religion probably won't even come into it, but we do share the same religious affiliation.
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