Hi, you're listening to Small Things Often from the Gottman Institute, where we talk you through research-based tips to help improve your relationships in five minutes or less.

Today's tip is about telling your partner three things you love about them.

Have you ever had those moments when your partner does something that totally makes you go,

whoa, this person is amazing.

I'm so in love with them.

And although you're filled with so much warmth and love, you just keep it inside.

Don't say a word.

Well, we're willing to bet that your partner would love to hear what you're

thinking. So why not write it down and share it? Make a list of things you love about them. It doesn't

have to be long. Three things will do. Here's some hints about what to write about. Maybe the list

will include qualities they've had for as long as you've known them.

Like their fantastic sense of humor that makes you double over with laughter on your first date, and still does today.

Or their love of animals.

The way they are so sweet and loving to your family dog, and any other animal, just warms your heart.

Or the way they strike up conversations with total strangers. Their curiosity about everyone and everything blows you away. The list can also

include things you observe in small moments, like sitting on the couch and looking over at your

partner engrossed in a book, and in that quiet moment, feeling such

love for them, you think your heart will burst. Or how when they see something around the house

that needs to be done, they just do it without being asked. Or maybe you just love their playfulness,

and just started dancing to an old song on the radio that made you feel

like you did when the two of you had just met. You can also write about something they did in the last

24 hours that you appreciated, or melted your heart. Maybe it was the quick kiss they gave you as they

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